Book Review: Soul Girl

SOULGIRL: For souls that don’t know where they’re going but are in the rush to get somewhere...Soul Girl drew me in with its tagline, “For souls that don’t know where they’re going but are in the rush to get somewhere…”  I sometimes feel like I have no future, I have no realistic 5-year plan and I have no idea where I’m going but I could say that I might be in a rush to get there.  The author, Kristina, early in the book pointed out “you are not alone, not now, not ever.” and while it may seem like I am the only one with these struggles, I very clearly am not because if I was – Kristina wouldn’t have gone through this as well and she would have had no reason to write this book to help out the rest of us!
A lot of these self-help books are “this is what I did, and you can do it too”, but Kristina notes that her Mom taught her independence and how to be self sufficient when she was a child and she sent her to buy the crayons she needed for school.  Yes, Kristina tells us what she did, but in addition to that she asks the readers questions to figure out things for themselves.  Much like her Mom and the crayons, Kristina is teaching us to think about ourselves positively and find our strengths that will ultimately lead us to being self sufficient for ourselves in a way that we need it, even if that may be different than what Kristina needed for her life. Another quote that resonated with me was “if I could travel alone, I could do anything in the world.” and while it may not be possible for everyone, I did find traveling alone does have a sort of liberating feel to it. You don’t have to make plans based on what everyone else wants to do, you can sleep late if you want and no one will be groaning at your for missing out on time sightseeing. You do what you want when you want and that’s an empowering thing.

If you are looking to look deeper inside your soul and find out more about yourself, then I think you should give Soul Girl a read.

I received an e-copy of this book in order to write a review for Reedsy Discovery!

About the Book

Soulgirl is a gentle and empowering self-help book written memoir style for girls who won’t settle for second best.

If you’re running from place to place, relationship to relationship, in the hope of finding a home and peace for your heart, and in search of bringing real meaning to your life, then Soul Girl has so much to share.

You see, the author was one of those girls whose outward life was packed with adventures, parties, trips, education abroad– none of which she was born into– and it was fun while it lasted. But she’s been always haunted by a feeling of not quite belonging, of being lost, of not knowing where she was heading inwardly.
While living in six different countries she realized something– the more places she moved to, the more bridges she burned, and the more disconnected she felt within.

Over the past two years everything’s changed. She’s stopped searching for answers and permissions outside herself. This is her story. She hopes it will inspire you too.

 

Year In Review – 2020 – Virtual

With this year being so weird for concerts, I started to keep track of virtual shows I went to, which I typically didn’t do in years past.  (I’ll continue to keep track in 2021 as well until things hopefully get back to normal, then I’ll stop including them as they will hopefully go back to being few and far between again.)  I was surprised to see that I had spent almost $600 on virtual concert tickets this year – especially when I was doing “pay what you can” on StageIt and paying $5-$10 there.  But I did go to quite a few – a number that made a bit more sense to me for a total for a year – 37. (So 52 for the year, which is about average for me when you add on in person) Including virtual concerts also helps me keep my streak alive of 1 concert per month – which started in January of 2009.

Most expensive show: Stephen Kellogg + M&G was about $55 [it was supposed to be in person when I bought tickets, but switched to virtual]

Least (not free) expensive show: I did a few “pay what you can” tickets to StageIt for $5

Free shows: I only did a couple free streams this year – Kris Allen and Stephen Kellogg (x2?)

# artists seen: 37
# unique artists seen: 5, but no one new.
# shows seen in CT: Technically all were most likely from my bed
# of shows out of state: None (Though I did watch the Hanson stream repeats in OK, I don’t have those listed in my spreadsheet as I was there in person, too.)

Show farthest away: None
Closest show: All
$$ spent on tickets: ~$600 [Damn!]
Miles traveled: 0

Top 6 shows of the year? Very hard to rank these.

Total number of shows in 2020? I did 37 virtual shows

First show of the year? Jon McLaughlin

First show with actual tickets: None

Last show of the year? David Cook

Most surprising show? It was surprising how much I ended up enjoying all of  them, honestly. And I really liked when the setlists were themed.

Most disappointing? None

Farthest traveled? None

States attended shows in? All CT. In bed.

Venue most visited? My bed.

Band seen the most? Since I seemed to see the same guys over and over let’s break it down:

Jon McLaughlin – 12
Stephen Kellogg – 12
David Cook – 7
Kris Allen – 3
Matt Nathanson – 2

Best new discovery? I mostly stuck with what I knew this year 

Bands seen this year that also broke up this year? None

Friends made at shows? The floppy bunny that lives in my bed.

Band members met? I did 1 zoom M&G with Stephen Kellogg – I had bought M&G thinking it would be in person but they did pretty well converting everything to virtual.

Best souvenir from a show? None 

Longest time in line? None 

Shows seen from the barricade [front row]– Technically all, I guess.

Most shows in one month? 

March – 1
April – 9
May – 6
June – 5
July – 1
August – 3
September – 3
October – 5
November – 1
December – 4

Most shows in one week? Probably some of the April shows 

Biggest crowd? I have no idea, for me they were all crowd of 1

Any drunk encounters? Definitely not! lol one major perk to watching by yourself from the safety of your own bed.

Book Review: He’s Growing

He's GrowingHe’s growing is a fable about a clever, orange tomcat.  A fable is a short story that typically has animals as the characters, conveying a moral.  This book follows this orange tomcat who ends up hungry and decides it may be in his best interest to find a family who will take him in and feed him as it has gotten harder and harder for him to forage for food out on his own.  Every few chapters, the cat grows larger – starting as a house cat, then a Main Coon, a lynx, a leopard, a cougar and finally he is nearly as big as a lion!  The family that takes him in is made up of a mother and father and their 2 children, a daughter and a son.  We never learn the families names but each of the family members feels differently about the cat moving into their home, especially since they just lost the family dog not too long ago.  They seem to come across as more of “dog people” than “cat people”, but have offered up their home to this cat.  The bigger he gets, the more annoyed the mother seems to get with him.  Then the cat figures out how to talk to the family and the mother ends up even more annoyed while the rest of the family are all enamored with him.

I had an idea of this book from the start based on the cover, but it took quite some time for me to realize if I was right or not in my assumptions. I don’t want to give too much away – but if you think the cover is giving something away, you’ll want to stick with the book for a while.  As I am not a “cat person” it was hard to really get into a book where the main character was a cat – and a not so nice cat, at that.  It took a while for this book to really get rolling for me, and once it did, it was nearly over.  I could have done with less back story I guess, and more action!

If you’re a cat person though, you’ll probably enjoy the inner workings of this cat and his thought process. You’ll enjoy it more if you’re not a fan of who you think you might see on the cover.

I received a free e-copy of this book from Reedsy Discovery.

About the Book

A modern fable, “He’s Growing” tells the story of a clever, orange tomcat who ingratiates his way into an innocent family, getting bigger and bigger. Once he learns how to talk, there’s no telling where he’ll stop.

Year In Review – 2020 – In Person

2020 stunk for concerts, at least in person.  I somehow managed to do every Hanson show they did (appropriately 13 by my count but 16 for others) and I think my list of who I saw in concert more accurately represents what people think I do concert wise.  In normal years I typically go to 2 non-Hanson shows for every 1 Hanson and that was not the case this year.  The only 2 non Hanson shows were the special guests at their Back to the Island Event and the extra night from the band who did the event before them. So still, Hanson adjacent.  I ended the year with a total of 660 shows attended, 229 of which have been Hanson.

Most expensive show:  Back to the Island

Least (not free) expensive show: Basically all the other shows I did were about the same price and pretty much every show was Hanson… so yeah.

Free shows: None

# artists seen: 17
# unique artists seen: 2
# shows seen in CT: 0
# of shows out of state: 15

Show farthest away: Jamaica is slightly further than OK
Closest show: Oklahoma. LOL!
$$ spent on tickets: $4200
Miles traveled: 13,700

Top 6 shows of the year? I only went to 15. Hard to pick, especially since the Hanson ones were similar.

Total number of shows in 2020? 15

First show of the year? Anders Osborne & Vince Herman at Ramble on the Island before BTTI kicked off

First show with actual tickets: NO shows had actual tickets this year.

Last show of the year? Hanson in Tulsa

Most surprising show? All the Hanson shows to finish out the year in Tulsa

Most disappointing? All the canceled and postponed ones, even though it was for good reason.

Farthest traveled? To Jamaica

States attended shows in? OK & Jamaica

Venue most visited? Cain’s Ballroom, Tulsa

Band seen the most? Hanson – I saw *every* show they did in 2020.

Best new discovery? None 

Bands seen this year that also broke up this year? None

Friends made at shows? None – stay 6 ft away!

Band members met? Hanson

Best souvenir from a show? Not sure I got anything this year 

Longest time in line? Like 30 mins

Shows seen from the barricade [front row]– Some of the Hanson shows at Cain’s.

Most shows in one month? 

January – 2
February – 4
October – 3
November – 3
December – 3

Most shows in one week? BTTI was 6 shows 

Biggest crowd? BTTI

Any drunk encounters? I don’t think so!

Book Review: Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Volume 6

I recently read a compilation of the Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Volume 6. Every now and then I like to “treat” myself to something a bit racier but I have found that a lot of times the back story is boring and it takes a while to get to the “good stuff”.  With these compilations, there are many short stories within them so I can read a whole bunch at once or one every now and then, but since they are so short to fit many in the book – they get to the point relatively quickly!   This book was made up of stories with all different situation – male female, female female, those who are recently divorced and looking for fun, married couples looking to put some spice into their marriage after children and of course, mermaids.

I received a free e-copy of this book in order to write this review. I was not otherwise compensated.

About the Book

Bold, audacious and unexpected, these twenty scintillating stories will take you on a journey of exploration and empowerment between the sheets and beyond.

From a mermaid’s quest to quench her earthly desires and a weary traveler indulging her lust along the Scottish coast, to a sexy escape room and a motorcycle club, there’s something here for every passion.

With contributions from popular authors Shelly Bell, Zoey Castile, Jeanette Grey, Mia Hopkins, Katrina Jackson, Elizabeth SaFleur, Naima Simone, Olivia Waite and Elia Winters, selected by award-winning editor Rachel Kramer Bussel, these sexy stories are sure to turn you on…and have you tingling in all the right places.

Discover new fetishes, fantasies and sexcapades as you go on erotic adventures around the world and find out just how hot it gets.

Book Review: What’s Stopping You? Face Your Fears, Ignite Your Passion, and Activate Your Dreams

What's Stopping You?: Face Your Fears, Ignite Your Passion, and Activate Your DreamsEvery now and then I need to read something to give me a little kick in the behind and some motivation to stop blocking myself by being scared.  Recently it was reading What’s Stopping You? Face your fears, ignite your passion and activate your dreams. The book is broken up into 6 sections: Tips for the Journey, Encouragement for your Journey, What Is Stopping You?, Call to Action, and Book Discussion Questions.  There also is a free companion Activation course that goes along with the book – you can either do it after you finish the book or go along with it as you read the book. I believe the most important takeaway from this book and something I really need to realize and over come is “NO ONE can keep you from being you but YOU.”

I found that throughout the book there were some tips that I am already doing and doing well. Others are things I struggle with, and you might too. I found that the activation questions included in the areas that I am struggling with, were really eye opening.  They made me focus on certain aspects of myself and try to figure out what it is I need to do to change and improve those behaviors that are blocking me from being the best me that I am destined to be. I find I react better when things are broken down into smaller bite size things – or in the case of this book – questions.  Thinking about it all at once can be very overwhelming so figuring out small steps to take to move forward is something that works well for me and I think that is why this book resonated so much.

This book is for anyone who may be wanting to take a leap – a new job, a new career entirely, going back to school, starting your own business, anything that you might be afraid to jump into and that fear is holding you back.  This book will give you the portal you need to access the tools you already have within you! (If you think you are too old – there is a whole chapter on people accomplishing major things no matter their age!) And remember – just keep going!

I received an ecopy of this book to review from Reedsy Discovery!

About the Book

Do you have a dream, a vision, or a desire burning in your heart? What is stopping you? Fears? Procrastination? Do you think: “Who am I? What do I know? I don’t have enough education, money, or connections, or I don’t know how to do it?” Do you believe that you are too young or too old? Yet in spite of all these fears and questions, your dream still lingers on in your heart, and you want to do it! You long to make a difference in your life, your family, community, city, country, and world.
Jane Cook, an average, ordinary person who chooses to believe that ordinary can become extraordinary when we take action. Join Jane on her journey as she travels from school teacher to full-time artist to bookstore and coffee shop owner; to Mozambique, Africa, Haiti, Thailand, and Cambodia (Southeast Asia) to see her dreams become reality. She will use her journey to encourage you in yours. Her dream is that your dreams move from dreams to reality to impact the world. YOU can actually face YOUR fears, ignite YOUR passion, and activate YOUR dreams. You are created to make a difference.

We’re Gonna Have A Christmas Ball Tonight

Early December Hanson continued their Cain’s Ballroom residency with a series of Christmas themed concerts. With the coronavirus spiking, I was a little bit hesitant to be there in person, but we took all the same precautions and also limited our time maskless outside (eating).  Going into the shows there were 4 songs I was hopeful would be played – Happy Christmas as they managed to play it only on the Finally it’s Christmas tour at shows I was not at (and I did a majority of them!), My Favorite Christmas Sweater as they only did it several years ago and never when I was there, Christmas Ball, a song never previously played but the name of the concert series and the Silent Night Medley for my friends who didn’t manage to see it on the Finally It’s Christmas tour.

The trip got off to a bit of a rocky start – 2 of us were supposed to land first, with the 3rd of us arriving just about an hour later and the rental car was in her name.  With about 20 minutes left of waiting at the airport – we get word that she had been diverted and had no idea when she would be arriving.  Fortunately, the car rental place was good about switching things into my name instead.  We had tickets to the Festival at the Philbrook that evening, so we anxiously awaited to hear when our friend would be arriving and if we’d have to try and adjust those tickets or not.  Fortunately after the diversion she got on another plane and ended up only about 3 hours late. (“only”)  However – in the time it took for us to get to the room and decide we wanted food – the elevator at the hotel went out. I decided I would go down the stairs once – to get out – and then we would stay out as long as possible in hopes that it would be back up and running upon our return.  It wasn’t fully running when we got back, but they managed to have a work around at least so we didn’t have to do the stairs back up (this time with our friend and her luggage!)  The hotel bathroom also seemed to be flooding from the room above us and when we were packing to get ready to leave, the power went out for just a couple of minutes. Thank goodness – because down those stairs with luggage was NOT going to be fun.

The Festival at the Philbrook was so pretty. They had a constant changing set of lights on the building and we wandered around checking it out from every angle.  We also got to see Santa and make s’mores!  In addition we opted to add the “take and make” to our tickets which was a sky gem – but decided to take them all the way home first as we weren’t sure how the finished gem would handle being packed in luggage.  After we left, we drove around some of the nearby neighborhoods to check out their Christmas light displays!

With temperatures getting colder, we spent a lot more time in the hotel than out and about exploring.  This also included getting our table decorations ready for each night of the show.  We had on Holly, a menorah (as one of our table mates is Jewish so we needed proper representation!), snowman who changes color when you bopped him on the head and some stockings with our and some of our friends who couldn’t make it to the shows names on them. Not knowing how long it might take us to set things up, we tried to get to Cain’s for doors – only for everything to be running about 30 minutes behind.  And did I mention, it was COLD? (Just about as cold in OK as CT which is not the norm.) Decorating ended up taking about 15 minutes and we modified it slightly for the shows the next day.  I wasn’t sure if the show was going to be 100% Christmas or a mix – and was pretty convinced it would be a mix so I was pleasantly surprised when it was 100% Christmas songs.  We took a photo of the setlist before the show, friends did not want to be spoiled but I skimmed looking for the songs I wanted to hear.  With so many songs having “Christmas” in the title – I completely missed that the 2nd song said “Christmas Ball” and so even though I looked at the setlist beforehand I was still confused and surprised when they started playing it.  For the first show we went for “funny” but the guys went for “dressy” – I guess we should have consulted each other before planning outfits 😉 I had made an ugly sweater tshirt special for 2020 and had a Santa mask and headband to go with it. During the show, Taylor had started “Someday at Christmas” but after singing the first line and playing with the keys a bit, ran his hand along his throat to let the others know that no, that song would not be happening that night.  Zac joked as they got ready for Joy to the Mountain that “Someday at Christmas they would play Someday at Christmas”.

‘Cause I remember when you were here
And all the fun we had last year

During the shows, there seemed to be a lot more chatting amongst band members than there usually was.  They mentioned how they often confuse “Please Come Home for Christmas” and “Christmas (Baby Please Come Home)” which I knew they did, because in NYC on the Finally It’s Christmas tour there was a major flub that went down (despite one being a Zac lead and one being a Taylor lead and Taylor playing the piano for one and tambourine for the other!)  They mentioned that they refer to them now as “Zac Please” or “Taylor Please” so they know which is which.  With all the songs having “Christmas” and keeping track of a setlist I ended up adopting this strategy too.  (I ended up with a strange “fridge magnet poetry”esque setlist after this show –  Baby Ball Means Nick Wonderful/Come Zac Please Time At Someday Joy FIC Peace Wine Please Taylor Rockin Blue Run Want Til Happy Sweater, Everybody!)  We also took a photo of the setlist before this show – and “White Christmas” was supposed to be included in the acapella section with Joy to the Mountain, but they last second decided to cut it.  For this show we also went silly/casual (I wore an elf hat and a “gangsta wrappa” shirt)  Also during this show Isaac did an epic photobomb on some of the girls who were in the front row trying to take pics with the stage behind them. I hope the photo came out because it was an awesome moment.

We decided that with a pretty decent table for the last show, we would go with the “ball” theme and dress up.  Of course, I can never fully commit to dressing up so I ended up wearing a Rudolph mask and antlers along with my fancy dress.  Zac and Isaac wore sweaters again, but Taylor got the memo and dressed up. For this show, we got the Silent Night medley, at least in part, so all of our Christmas song wishes ended up coming true.

On the way home, I had a 5 hour layover in Atlanta – which was the long layover I had needed in October when I ended up getting stuck in Tulsa due to delays due to a tire change.  This time, we were on the plane and supposed to leave at 12:15, only for 12:15 to come and go.  Finally we were told that there was a potential issue and they needed maintenance to look at it, but since it was Sunday they were ‘in the field’ or ‘on call’ so they had to track them down – which delayed us to 1:15 and then 1:45.  It turned out to not be an issue at all in the end (phew!), but my 5 hour layover ended up more like a 3 hour layover in the end.  (Delta, the only thing you’ve currently got going for you is that you’re blocking middle seats…)

Overall it was a fun trip despite sticking to the hotel a lot more to avoid the public. I tested negative upon returning home and as always – this post and I have completed our 14 day quarantine.

Hope next year we all will be together
If the fates allow

 

Scrapbook Saturday Will Return!

I have been working hard on getting Scrapbook Saturday Posts back up and running.  I recently got myself a new toy, the We R Memory Makers ShotBox which has made taking photos of my layouts oh so simple! The last couple of weekends have been busy taking photos of all my 2019 and 2020 layouts, editing them, and getting Saturday posts ready.

Here’s how it’s going to go – 2021 will be full of 2019 layouts – pretty much a month for month retelling of the better days of 2019.

2022 will be a bit lighter – and focus on “all” the 2020 layouts.  January and February will focus on my trip to Jamaica before everything shut down. February – September will have 1 post on the first Saturday of the month with a couple of pages mostly of canceled shows 🙁  And things will pick back up again for the end of the year with trips to Tulsa for the Hanson streams.

That should then allow for plenty of time for those vaccines to start kicking in and life returning to normal and for me to end up behind once again on scrapbooking.  (I am actually currently AHEAD as I made layouts for all the concerts I have tickets for out of sheer boredom over the summer and just need to pop some photos on the pages!)

I don’t think I’ve ever been so far ahead on blog posts…

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