Book Review: You Surround Me

Trigger warning: This book contains explicit content and difficult topics.

You Surround Me tells the story of a school year from the perspective of 2 of the kids in a pretty tight knit group of friends, Kenna, who is a junior and Logan who is a senior.  Kenna’s best friend is Logan’s sister and Logan’s best friend is Kenna’s brother.  Their Mom’s also are best friends from back in their college days. Kenna has had a crush on Logan since she was three years old and Logan has been oblivious, although at the beginning of the school year he started seeing her as more than just his best friend’s little sister. Most of the book is spent with Kenna trying to figure out if Logan likes her back, and then once they decide there might be something there, they try to keep it from Kenna’s brother Matt.  Also with such a large friend group as well as their families, there are a lot of different sub plots throughout, not all of them revolving around Kenna and Logan.  I don’t want to give too much away though, as there are many twists and turns and this book was nothing short of a roller coaster.

This book was long – it was almost 700 pages and it took me quite some time to get through, even though I enjoyed almost all of reading it. (Some of the topics are a bit deep and harsh, so while overall I did enjoy the book, there were some spots that were tough for me to read.)  Like I said, it was an absolute roller coaster and I was so happy that Kenna and Logan had such a wonderful friend group.  It seemed that everyone in the group had some sort of challenge in their life that they had to overcome – parents who had passed away, parents who were abusive or addicted to drugs and may or may not be in their lives, some were getting bullied at school, etc – but their friends didn’t care and were there for them and supported them no matter what.  I was a bit jealous of how close they all seemed to be, even if they were fictional.

I would give this book 4.5 stars! This is the first book in a series, and I am looking forward to reading the rest, as I imagine that they will follow the rest of the friend group – but even if it continues to follow Kenna and Logan and their families – the ending did leave some things open. (Though there was enough closure for me, for those of you who might be worried that you’ll be left hanging!)  Now I’m not sure how to bring myself back into the real world after spending so much time with this group.

I received a free ARC from Reedsy.

About the Book

My best friend’s brother? My brother’s best friend?

It doesn’t get any more cliché, yet…I can’t help but want him.

Kenna Ayken is a junior in high school, and she’s been crushing on a boy forever. Too bad he’s never shown a similar interest in her. But when his home life goes from bad to worse, they find themselves growing closer. Suddenly their friendship is becoming more tangible and true, something separate from her brother, a new bond that is just for them.
All these years he has never once glanced at her in a meaningful way…
Until he does.

I’ve known Kenna my whole life and she’s always felt like another little sister to me.

Until now.

Logan West is a senior in high school, and for the first time since he’s known her, he can’t keep his eyes off of his best friend’s little sister. Matt has never liked seeing any guy with her, and he sure as hell would have an issue with Logan pursuing her, and now things at home are getting…harder. When Kenna walks in one day, she sees just how bad it’s become, and reacts in a way Logan never would have expected.

Book Review: Save the Last Piece

Save the Last Piece is about Natalie – currently a nanny to a teen who is approaching the age of no longer needing her and an aspiring actress, she interviews to be a wedding planner’s assistant and gets the job.  Her boss, however, is quite the villainess. “Bridezillas are at times dangerous and rightly feared. But Zella on the on a bad day was a horror show.”  When we first meet Natalie, she is considering quitting her glamourous job of helping all the NYC brides have the wedding of their dreams.  She then backtracks to when she first gets the job and takes us through all the ups and downs and downs that Zella has put her through over the past couple of years.  What has she learned from reminiscing on all the bad (and some good?) times.

This book was a lot of fun to read, albeit it at Natalie’s expense.  The book starts with Zella, Natalie’s boss, pushing her out of an elevator and to her knees at a wedding they are working.  This seems to be the last straw for Natalie, who spends the rest of the book explaining to us where her life was at when she took the job and how things begin to unravel.  She spends all her time at Zella’s beck and call, and her relationship with her boyfriend is starting to suffer.  She never spends any time with him anymore as she is often out late at events and he gets up early for his job.  She was already barely having time to see any of her friends and now her time is spent tracking down umbrellas and socks.  Natalie is afraid to stand up to Zella initially, but often realizes that once she shows she has a backbone Zella backs down, but continues to be timid around her for fear she will get fired.  Others in the industry tell her there’s no way that she will fire her so close to wedding season with no replacement and I think that this gives Natalie more confidence to stand up for herself, though it sure does take a long time for her to do it!

I really enjoyed this book and getting a fictitious look inside the glamourous world of NYC (and surrounding area) weddings and even bat mitzvahs. If you’re into The Devil Wears Prada or similar, you’ll probably enjoy the book too.  It was a bit longer than I expected, so not an easy read in one evening, but perfect for a cozy weekend in!  I would give this book 4.5 stars!

I received a free ARC from Discovery.

About the Book

When Natalie takes a job as a wedding planner’s assistant in NYC, she is excited for the glamour of it all. But when her employer Zella, an in-demand New York City wedding planner, lives up to her reputation of being part Cruella Deville, and part Miranda Priestly, makes Natalie’s life miserable and she experiences crazy brides that demand everything from perfect pyramids of precious perishable wedding favors, she isn’t sure if she can take it anymore. Years of trying to prove herself to Zella, Natalie also fights off a poaching planner who wants to date her. After an incident at a wedding, Natalie questions her career choice. Will Natalie stay in a career that mentally defeats her, or will she go back to live her dream?
For fans of The Devil Wears Prada and Say Yes To The Dress.

Book Review: A Guy’s Guide to Relationships

A Guy’s Guide to Relationships: Growing Your Relationship through Language and Action is written by a guy for guys, but it is also for anyone who might be looking for help in making sure their relationships succeed.  While this book mainly focuses on romantic relationships and focuses a lot of the author and his wife, I think that the tips and ideas presented throughout this book can work for any sort of relationship – friendship, professional, romantic, etc.  The book is split into 2 parts – Language and Action.  In Part I the author goes over the “Five As”: Affirmation, Admiration, Appreciation, Affection & Attraction.  The second part focuses a lot on Expectations, Actions, Toxic Traits.   It ends with ways to find Growth in your relationship.

This book was interesting to me because it kind of helped me get a guys perspective on things.  Their brains can work a little different than women’s.  For instance, the author spoke a bit about how some men will not always tell their significant other that they like or love them.  They said it initially, so that remains to be true until they tell you otherwise.  But as an anxious woman, this is something that I fear to no longer be true often in relationships and to bring in a point that is made throughout the book – communication is key.  As is learning how your partner communicates and what some of their “tells” are.  The author noted that his wife always knows when he lies because of how he acts when he does it – so he’s simply stopped lying to her because she figures out the truth immediately anyway – so why bother?  But if he needed to lie to someone else who didn’t know him as well, he could probably get away with it.  He also noted that he could tell when his wife seemed to be down and over time was able to figure out what sort of things she might like for him to do or say to her to make her feel better.  He’s always attracted to her and has been since they met, but doesn’t always express that to her and some days she just might like to hear it from him.  I also think that the book focusing on expectations is really important too.  I’m not in a relationship but have spent a lot of time on dating apps and I often will ask the guys I match with what they are looking for as a way to manage my expectations.  If they’re not looking for a serious relationship I should expect them to act differently than someone who is – and then I don’t end up disappointed when further on down the line after I’ve become more attached this comes out.  I also really liked the author touching on various toxic traits –  of course drugs and alcohol came up as well as cheating, which you would expect in a book about relationships but he also focused on a few other traits that made me stop and think – projection, uncontrolled emotions and selfishness and time.

I give this book 4.5 stars.  While this book is, in theory, geared at men – I think it’s really helpful for everyone to take the time and stop and think about themselves, especially if they are in a relationship or are trying to be the best they can be to enter a relationship.

I received a free ARC from Discovery

About the Book

Intimate relationships are one of the most powerful forms of companionship that a person can have. Unfortunately, they are often hard to navigate and can become stale and dull. A Guy’s Guide to Relationships is one guy’s perspective on how to improve your relationship through language and action. This book teaches you the “Five As” of positive language where you will discover how to speak to your partner in a way that not only uplifts them, but improves the relationship as a whole. It also teaches the reader specific actions to support positive language that offers critical insight into not only talking the talk, but walking the walk. Finally, this book will challenge people to address toxic traits that may be corrupting them and their relationship before closing with steps to personal growth. A Guy’s Guide to Relationships is an exciting book for anyone looking to improve their relationship!

Book Review: Freeing Teresa

This book did come with a trigger warning: extensive description and discussion of discriminatory attitudes and actions towards people based on disabilities or age.

Freeing Teresa is about a woman with Down Syndrome, written by her sister, Franke.  When Teresa was born in 1964, doctors suggested to her parents that she be put in an institution.  Her mother refused, and she lived at home with her parents.  Her mother has since passed away, her father is approaching his 91st birthday and Teresa is 49 years old.  Franke and 3 of her siblings are trying to figure out where Teresa should go to live, as her father’s health is failing and they would prefer her to be settled before their Dad passes.  Her brother had initially told his father he would take Teresa in, but now none of the siblings want to take on the role of her sole caretaker and they are looking at other options.  Franke, though busy with her books and traveling to promote them, feels that Teresa is capable of making a decision for where she should live and is trying to advocate for her, but her other siblings keep excluding Teresa and her father from any conversation and have the CCAC deem Teresa incapable of making such decisions.  Franke doesn’t believe Teresa should go to a nursing home and instead thinks it is possible that Teresa can live with others who have Down Syndrome, or with her and her husband.  Her siblings continue to try and block every solution she tries to offer.  Franke’s family did not want this story to be told so many of the personal details have been redacted and their images/likeness have been photoshopped out of all the photos. She writes, “In photos throughout the book, the images of many family members have been blanked-out echoing their absence in my life”

I have to say, this book was not at all what I was expecting.  When I saw it was a true story about fighting ableism, I thought it was going to be some sort of facility or company that was causing all the issues for Teresa, not her own family!  As the story went on, I became more and more frustrated with her family.  Of course, I am reading this from a disabled person’s point of view, and if my brothers wouldn’t help me out when I needed it, I’d be terribly upset! Of course my situation is a bit different as I only have a physical disability – but from what was presented about Teresa she seemed pretty capable of making her own decisions about what she wanted to do and where she wanted to live, but it seemed like no one other than Franke wanted to take that into consideration.  I am not sure if the sister who had the husband who owned nursing homes was making some sort of deal off of her going there or what, but the way the other siblings teamed up against Franke and Teresa and their own father’s wishes was, well, disgusting.  It does seem like there is a sequel coming as the ending did not really resolve much of anything, but I can only hope that there was a happy ending.

I gave this book 4 stars and I would definitely recommend it to others – but be sure to keep an open mind. After the first half of the book I was flabbergasted and thought the whole book was awful, but I stuck it through and rode the rest of the roller coaster with Teresa and was happy I stuck it out.  If you consider yourself an activist or ally for the disabled then I think you would find this book to be rather eye opening.

I received a free ARC from Discovery.

About the Book

Freeing Teresa is a true story about an activist who tries to stop her powerful siblings from putting their disabled sister into a nursing home. She fails. And then must rescue her.
Franke James objected when she heard of the plan to put her disabled sister into a nursing home. Teresa Heartchild was just 49 years old and healthy. But the other siblings, who were acting as Teresa’s “guardians,” said that Teresa, who has Down syndrome, was “incapable.” Despite the objections, the siblings put Teresa into a nursing home, insisting it was necessary. But Franke refused to accept this, and she helped Teresa get discharged. That’s when all hell broke loose. The two sisters had to stand together—against their siblings, the medical system and the police—to defend Teresa’s right to be free.

 

Book Review: Confident Cyber Security

I received my Masters in Cyber Security in 2020 and am currently taking a refresher class at Harvard to try and see what area I’d most like to focus on for potential jobs in the future, so I always enjoy reading whatever I can about cyber security.  I found this book to touch on many, many, different topics and give you a really good overview for a starting off point if you’re just starting to get curious about cyber security and what all it entails.  It features some real-world examples which I always enjoy reading the most (unless they’re about Taylor Swift, ick) and gives you a little bit about a lotta things! If you already know a lot about cyber security, then this book can be a nice refresher (and probably has some examples you didn’t see before) but if you’re new to cyber security and are trying to find out if it might be a fit for you – then I definitely think reading this book would be beneficial.

I received a free e-copy of this book from NetGalley in order to write this review. I was not otherwise compensated.

About the Book

The world is more digitally connected than ever before and, with this connectivity, comes vulnerability. This book will equip you with all the skills and insights you need to understand cyber security and kickstart a prosperous career.

Confident Cyber Security is here to help. From the human side to the technical and physical implications, this book takes you through the fundamentals: how to keep secrets safe, how to stop people being manipulated and how to protect people, businesses and countries from those who wish to do harm.

Featuring real-world case studies including Disney, the NHS, Taylor Swift and Frank Abagnale, this book is packed with clear explanations, sound advice and practical exercises to help you understand and apply the principles of cyber security. This new edition covers increasingly important topics such as deepfakes, AI and blockchain technology.

About the Confident series…
From coding and data science to cloud and cyber security, the Confident books are perfect for building your technical knowledge and enhancing your professional career.

PodMeetsWorld Boston

Friday night PodMeetsWorld took their live show to the Boch Theater in Boston, MA. I once again played front row roulette, and won (despite having to buy the tickets during a meeting I was presenting and speaking on – mad skillz) and then had to figure out how I was going to navigate to Boston solo.  I ended up needing 1 more Marriott night to keep status, so I booked a room outside the city and ubered in which worked out quite well!

I arrived just before 6:30 when the lobby doors were set to open.  At 7 the theater doors opened and it was at this point I realized something was not right with my new leg brace, but couldn’t exactly take it off to figure out what was going on.  I made it to my front row seat despite every walk way in the old theater being pitched a bit too steep of an incline for me.

At about 7:40, Rider came out on stage dressed in Too Much Shirts and read a poem about the show that also had a bit about Boston in it as well. Then Rider, Danielle and Will made their way to the stage. They said that they wanted us to pretend like it was the 90s, did a couple of poses for us to take photos of and then asked for us to put our phones away for the rest of the show so that things would not be ruined for those who have not seen the show yet.

That being said – I will now recap from what I remember from the show so if you’re thinking about going to a show and don’t want potential content to be ruined (I’m not sure what exactly they do the same in each city) then you’re probably going to want to X out of this review now.

The first part of the show was just the 3 of them on stage.  Will told a story about his childhood in MA and how he tried to jump off a rock and broke his leg and ended up in a cast up to his nipples at 4 years old for several weeks.  Rider said that the stairwells in the theater reminded him of the theater that he had done Les Mis at and ended up having a memory resurface about the time he broke his arm and then also went into a story about how he was in the theater during an earthquake and the stairs moved from the building as he was on them trying to get outside and how his Dad had his firetruck come to make sure he was OK since it was before cellphones.  Danielle told a story about how she broke her pinky and didn’t go see a doctor for a few weeks and then had to have surgery and how the doctor told her if in the next few hours her pinky drooped, to let him know.  Turns out it did droop and the doctor was 3 beers deep when she texted him and she got responses like “oh no” and “shit” from him and ended up recently having surgery to correct the damage the first surgery had done (and NOT by the same doctor!).

Then they brought out special guests – Alaina and Ash from the Morbid Podcast. I believe these girls are from MA but I was not familiar with their podcast (I am going o have to check it out now) and they played a game called ‘Canon’ with Will, Danielle and Rider where they gave each of them a character that disappeared from the show and they had to come up with a back story for them.  Will had Wendy, Rider had Eddie and Danielle had Nebula.  I don’t remember all the details of what they said, but their stories were absolutely hilarious and they tried to intertwine them all as well and Alaina and Ash gave their thoughts as well.

The next part was that they needed a Corey, so each of them chose 1 person from the audience and gave them a line to audition with. A man named Silk Johnson won the part and they did a scene where Corey was going to marry Topanga. Eric was officiating the wedding, but something in his pocket started buzzing and he had no idea what it was, but when he answered there were girls on the line so he ran off – leading to DANNY MCNULTY coming out to finish officiating and pronouncing them Mr and Mrs Baboon.  The place went NUTS and it seemed like Danielle had tears in her eyes to the reception he received.

Danny joined the 3 for the next segment, which was audience Q&A.  There were a lot of fun questions, some deep ones as well and they even had Danny do a ‘Canon’ on what happened with Harley while he was away. (Reform school until something happened with TK, but he knows now bullying was wrong and got to give back as the janitor at Abigail Adams High on Girl Meets World)  Danny also gave a shout out to all the veterans and we gave a special round of applause to Will’s Dad who was in the audience.

In between segments they played some videos – one was of the guys doing their BSB routine which was hilarious and I’m so glad I got to see if after they had been talking about it on the pod so often as well as a blooper real from a later season that Will had found.

The last segment was the costume contest and they had one of Topanga’s bridesmaids, Topanga and Corey getting married, a duck, a lobster, celery, plays with chipmunks, Lauren and then chants started coming “BAL-CON-Y BAL-CON-Y” and they couldn’t quite figure out what was happening and then it turned into “ROLLS ROLLS ROLLS” and 2 people dressed as Corey and Shawn from “They want you to take the rolls!” came on stage, took over, and did the entire scene.  At this point the cast had totally lost control of the evening and had to declare them winners.  They really underestimated the intenseness of a Boston crowd lol (Although Will did say he knew people from CT were there because he saw our horse and buggies parked outside!)

To end the night, there was a video message from Mr Feeny.  Then we were told if we had a M&G to sit and hang tight for a bit.  I could see everyone hanging out off to the side of the stage, including Will’s Dad.  Jensen came out and told us the cast was having a bite to eat and then we’d go up the aisle of the theater and to the right to meet them before heading out.  I had been hoping I’d be back to the hotel by 11, but didn’t anticipate how long we’d have to wait for the M&G. (I was glad that they let us sit and I did try to take off my brace and fix it, but wasn’t able to at the time – I did fix it when I got back to the hotel though!)

Finally, it was my turn to meet the cast. It was quick, but we had a nice chat about my NSYNC Care Bears shirt and New Haven pizza. (They like it, I don’t, but Danielle said we could still be friends lol)  After I headed outside and Uber prices were soaring but Lyft was giving me a promo, so I used them to get back to the hotel and made it before turning into a pumpkin at 11:40pm.

Overall it was a lot for me to get out and do this in a big city and all alone.  I decided to not bring my walker as I’ve been using it as a crutch (that terminology is weird in this situation…) and just used my cane.  I did quite well – especially since when I was checking into the hotel and trying to get dinner there were THREE teenage boys sports teams in the lobby not knowing what to do with themselves and just creating an obstacle course for me.  I have a lot of work still to do on myself, but this was a big step in the right direction.

It also sounds like they’ll be back at 90s Con in CT and hopefully doing a show here as well!

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